In the years since, one odd thing I've noted is that generally if "that kind of girl" comes up in real life, it will usually be in the context of a particular girl affirming that she is not such a girl. And I suppose I'm really just rather daft in some ways, because I've never really been sure exactly what makes ... well, y'know, "that kind of girl" any particularly unique kind of girl. I mean, as opposed to all the other kinds of girls.

What I mean is ... if, for instance, you'd happen to invite a certain girl to -- go golfing, let's say -- and that particular girl had never been a golfer nor ever desired to spend time at the sport at all ... she would almost certainly decline your offer to go golfing, but almost as certainly she would not do so by explaining that she's not that kind of girl... you know, the kind who goes golfing, I guess.

Now right ... clearly, without my even bothering to try wracking my brain for particular examples, we can go ahead and point out that if someone is saying something along those lines, the difference that she means to draw is undoubtedly sexual in some sense or other. Again, she may or may not golf, but she's not the kind of girl who ... enjoys having sex against a wall in an alleyway, for instance. The only problem is, while that may make thigns crystal clear for the rest of you, I still don't quite get it.

Because ... well, would not asserting that you're not that kind of girl rather suggest that you know what kind of girl that is? I mean, y'know, taking the alley example for instance ... it would rather seem to me that one would either enjoy such a thing or not. And, having come down on one side or another of that particular line -- I'm just not really sure what else we could realistically know in advance about either girl.

Let us take, fr'instance, porn stars as compared to (I guess) each and all of the other women who've lived throughout the life of the planet. I use this example because I do actually recall a particular incident in relation to this. Now clearly, we have women who have/will perform in porn stuff and women who have not/will not. So far so good, I can hang with that distinction. However, should we decide to say that those on one side are a particular kind, and those on the other are some other...

Are all porn stars necessarily the same sort of person, then? I mean, exactly what commonalities may we assume about them in advance? And do all of these apply regardless of ... you know, saying there's one lady who was in one Playboy shoot in the early 80's, as opposed to another who's been in 100+ hardcore porn movies and going strong? I mean, to be clear, I'm not saying they're not of exactly the same kind ... I'm just saying I don't really know what the hell we're talking about when we say that they are.

By the same token -- and here's where my mind went immediately in the aforementioned instance when a particular person exclaimed that she was not the kind of girl who might ever do anything porn related -- if we can really say that there's a kind of girl who is a porn star -- would that not rather intimate that all others are the kind who are not? You know, you're on one side of the line or the other?

Maybe more clearly: on the non-pornstar side, we'd have, you know ... like, nuns, as well as club chicks who scout for one nighters on a regular basis. We'd have faithful wives of 60 year marriages, as well as their counterparts who could never even hope to keep up with their infidelities. Moreover, number of partners really isn't even the point ... on the non-pornstar side, we'd have some women who for whatever reason would never even really find the ability to be comfortable naked with another person, and some others who can only really get turned on by blood or violence or any number of other particular kink. You know, from the most hardcore man-disliking butch dyke to the most saccharine sweet pink-wearing girly girl ... lots and lots of women on the non-pornstar side, is all I'm saying.

So what do we mean, when we say they are of a particular kind? You either dig golf or you don't, right?

Is sex something by which we can realistically draw major lines of human types? "I'm not the kind of guy who would ever decide to not have sex for a given amount of time."